I was thinking the other day that sometimes therapy can change one so that other people find you, well, obnoxious. I'm not sure if that is the right word.

Here is an example: I have become much better at being able to detect what I am feeling over the last 3+ years, due to therapy. Sometimes I just have to pause for a moment and "listen" to what is going on inside of myself, and sometimes I can hear the feeling that is arising. Sometimes I use a compare and match strategy. Like a person may say something and I will take that and compare it to my inner state and be able to pronounce, "yes, that's it," or "no, that's not what I mean (or feel)." I will often use the word "resonate" to describe the match: "That really resonates with me" or "that doesn't really resonate with me."

Well, I said this to someone--about resonating--and they made fun of me for that statement. I think it somewhat annoyed them, in fact. Is "that doesn't resonate with me" too therapy-speakish? Does it seem, well, like a stupid and annoying statement to some people? Laughable? I am not sure this is really even a phrase I use in therapy, and I know I didn't learn it in therapy (like I did "boundary"), but I think I use it more since therapy because I can detect resonance better. I am more in tune with my feelings so I know if I resonate or not.

Does that make sense? Should I stop annoying people by saying things like that? Or should I forge on and annoy them? I must admit that the person who was annoyed is someone I do not really resonate with.

Does anyone else find that people are annoyed with them for changes since therapy?