(((((((Jexa)))))))))

This was abuse!!!!!!! It was wrong!!!!! And it was not your fault!!!!! No matter what he said or did it is not your fault. I'm so sorry that your mother does not believe you and that your parents are still in contact with your grandfather. I also hope that your nieces are safe. Have you talked to your brother about your worries that your parent's might let him come over when the children are there?

Why do you have to ask your T to talk? To talk about anything or just this? My guess is that she doesn't want to press you into an area she may not think you are ready for until you bring it up. I know it is really hard to bring these things up. Could you ask her to ask about it? Maybe say something like "We haven't talked about that thing and I don't feel comfortable bringing it up, so i was wondering if you could let me know if you want to know about what happened?" I'm sure even though she is behaviorally oriented and mostly looks at the present, that she would want to hear what happened. I think that what happened has a lot to do with your current issues. Safe hugs if you want them.