Wow i cant believe how many of these things are exact things i do!
Sunrise.....Therapy-speak--I do it too all the time now. I think people definitely are like "huh" sometimes but its okay because it's just who I am/you are. It's not nice to make fun of people...and don't people usually make fun of people b/c they feel threatened? like maybe the person didn't really understand the meaning of the word or felt like it was a deep thought they couldn't handle. Which is good and fine and okay I think.
Chaotic 13 I have been driving my H crazy trying not to give in to our old patterns of fights and drama. I can so relate to that, and also to not just blindly going where he wants to, eating what he wants, etc. etc. It was scary at first, but is getting easier. I thought he would hate it but he seems to be ...adjusting okay. But its like changing the way we interact is a big shock to their system, and they lose control a little...
Also with the less BS talk...Definitely have this ...some people like it, some don't but overall i think people really like to be heard and considered...usually the people who don't want that kind of connection are the ones who want to control the dynamic, or have insecurity or use ways of communicating that dont' really allow for connection or clarity ..so they think it's dumb or not fun to be all present and aware and engaged.
Brightheart...i have been compulsively analyzing my friends !! So far they like it and think i have like some kind of something special when i say "T said" this or that...but also they don't like it when I let it slip what i really think about stuff they do (internet/texting affair? your H doesn't know? hmmm not ok!) so i have got to chill out with that.
Plus, it's kind of freaking exhausting and makes me appreciate T sooo much because it can be hard to care about other people and yourself and be open, and resonating, and present, and hearing others. Like, it's a huge deal
In the best kind of way.
but I would not worry about being obnxious sunrise
you are connecting with yourself and being a real person and maybe people are threatened by that, or you are passing them up on the maturity level...but it's all good things, happy things for you because you are being true to yourself.
(((((((((((((sunrise)))))))))))))
