I thought I understood all of the situation. But I didn't. My son called other night and asked if I could talk to his wife and tell her I will not involve him and for her to stop what she is doing. so I called her and listened to 20 min of abuse approaching this in my head like she is acting out and temper tantrum. but it is deeper. I asked her if she would be willing for her and I to see a therapist or family counselor so we could talk this out. she is refusing and just calls me names. terrible. I met with my son following day. he believes she is in a lot of emotional pain over her father dying, he really loves her and wants to work this out. and I asked "If I gave her the dog what would that accomplish"? he says it would take this out of the situation then he would be able to address with her the abusive treatment she is giving him. Her mother is very involved with my son and trying to be a mediator. there is so much blaming going on..I am responsible for the business being ruined ( what?) and her misery, their marriage and mostly my sons pain...although he does not say or believe that. it is mostly DIL and her mother. I am trying to find someone to talk with but am on disability right now so that is not an option until I return to work.
I really want to be clear on this and my emotions are everywhere. I need to understand if I really am the cause of this misery...would just giving the dog to her really make any difference? she is in pretty ugly place right now. reminds me of someone in a lot of pain in a cage lashing out. I just hope I can find someone to discuss this with because working it out by myself is not working. I understand I could not be that terrible of a person to do all the things they say. I am also sure of course I make mistakes but nothing intentional and I have asked several times for explanation why I was asked to leave the business and no one talks to me. so confusing. I just want to know the best thing to do for my son and his situation. the elusive truth.