Jexa - I am so so glad to hear that you brought this up with T.
Honestly, that is really what you have to do.
It is like a big sack of poooo on your shoulders that you have carried for so long.
And you know this because you see people who come and go in therapy who have that sack strapped to their back.
You also know that T is the right one who can be handed that sack.