HZ,
I really relate to your post. My guy has never said he loves me, and has, in fact, said he doesnt' love me in the romantic sense. Our situations are quite similar. Also, I want to stay with him for the same reasons as you do- "He makes me happy," "He could eventually grow to love me," "It would break my heart if we broke up," "I love him," and "He is the only one I want to be with" at the moment. And I don't want to fall for anyone else. However, I think I'm crazy for staying for some of the same reasons you stated for wanting to break up- "He doesn't love me," "If he never grows to love me that will make it worse," "His confusion is just making it worse, and it just seems to get worse and worse." I didn't list one of the ones you said-I could find someone else. And why? Because I don't want to fall in love with anyone else, and because honestly, I think relationships suck in general, love is B.S., and I'll prob. just end up with someone else who doesn't love me or that I don't love. Anyway, as another mentioned, you say nothing about how long you've been together. If you've been together 3 months and are upset because he doesn't love you, yet, I'd say stick it out. It takes more time for some people to fall in love than others, and you want it to be genuine when he says it. If it's been years, then yes, you have an issue. In my case, it's been nearly two years. I used to think it would get harder, and I'd go nuts never hearing it- that the frustration and sadness would increase with time. But instead, I've gotten more accustomed to not hearing it, and accepting, I might never hear it. Not that it doesn't bother me. It does.