Rather than start a new thread, I guess I'll just add this here. Don't feel obligated to respond, I just want to get this out and perhaps be able to let it go.

Today is my nephew's birthday, he's 7. Earlier my son and I called to sing him happy birthday and to just talk for a little bit. Well, when he was done talking, my sis got on the phone and I could hear a man (not her husband) talking in the background so I asked who it was...she was like "Oh that's momma and Dennis (mom's boyfriend), they are here already and everyone else will get here in a few hours." So, I was like, what are you doing in a few hours and she's says "We're having a crawfish boil for Zach's birthday, I told you that!" She's sounding INCREDIBLY defensive and angry before I even had a chance to say anything. Well, I told her she hadn't told me that and she basically starts speaking very shrilly and says "I DID tell you and you acted like you didn't care, so I didn't mention it again." And then she tells me that the party starts at 2 and I can come if I want. (She lives about 2.5 hours away.) So I just said, I would really like to come but you know I cannot be around momma. And she was like "alright, bye" and hung up the phone. I immediately busted out crying. I never miss my nephew's birthdays. I love those little boys as much as my own son. My sis specifically said because she was going to Disney that she wasn't going to do any parties this year because they were going to celebrate while there. I mean, she SPECIFICALLY SAID NO PARTIES. I even offered to let her have her parties with my son (his bday was 2 weeks ago), but she didn't want to do that. Anyway, as I was sitting there crying and trying to figure out how I could have not known she was having a party I realized that she didn't tell me on purpose! She always has chosen my mother over me and this was obviously one of those times when she'd rather have my mom there than me and my family!!!! God, this hurts so ****ing badly! I am really doing my best not to send her an email telling her that I am sick of this behavior. Its not fair. I don't remember if I said this in this thread or somewhere else, but my mom severely physically and mentally abused me and my brother (NOT MY SISTER) and after many years of continued abuse as an adult, I have chosen to no longer interact with her. My sister has consistently taken my mother's side in this and has even tried repeatedly to make it like I'm being unreasonable about everything. The thing is she's never been abused by my mother, but she saw the horrible, horrible abuse my brother and I suffered through. You think that would mean something to her. But it means nothing. She didn't hurt her, so my sis just doesn't even fricken CARE! Oh I am just heartbroken.