i agree with what's being said here. We do not become obnoxious, i believe we just find our voice. I was a push-over for everyone, kids, ex-h (hence=x), work, my mother and now I can say "no" or when people try to give me their problems, my catch phrase right off the bat is "let me know how that works out for you" or "good question" I wouldn't use the word resonate but only because it is not part of my vocab,, but i think we learn certain "catch phrases" in therapy and apply them to the real world. My ex couldn't handle this at all and it took me years of therapy to get the courage to divorce him, I thought my kids would hate me and they actually chose to live with me. I was the more stable parent, just took therapy to realize that.... You are not obnoxious, just finding your voice. I, for one, am proud of you!!!