I am writing my father a letter today. I have not spoken to him in 14 years. I have written him letters countless times, but this is it. A man I know has contact with him, and he said he will stop by the house this evening to pick up the letter and take it to my father. I don't know what to say after all this time. I had written a 17 page letter, but I have decided not to send it because I found out my father is sick, and the letter I had written, though it had loving words, was also very harsh in some places. I don't want to bash him right now, not even to get these things off my chest. If he's really sick (don't know much about his condition), I just want to let that go for now. I do want to know WHY, though. Why did he cut off all contact? I thought maybe I shouldn't overload him right now with a 17 page document, and should just make it a simple page, maybe the back, too, at most. I am not sure if I should ask him why he did it in the letter or not. Part of me says to wait, he might want to see me or call me and we can talk about it. Part of me says if he knows I want to know why, he might not want to meet me or talk to me for fear of being hit with a hard question. However, part of me says he might never call or agree to meet, but might write me a letter, and if I don't ask him why in this letter, I might never get to hear the answer. What should I say to him, should I ask why, and should I include a photo of myself? Thanks.