Thanks Junerain. I can limit contact if I want, but as it is, my sister is the only family member I have contact with and basically the only person on earth I have to talk to (though admittedly those are one sided conversations focused on her life). If I stand up to her, I won't get to see her kids and I truly love those children as my own. I have been struggling with this whole thing for a long time, and its been driving me crazy all day today to think of just letting her do this to me, but I don't want to lose the kids! Oh I am in a circular reasoning that won't work out. Ug.