((((((((((((MUE)))))))))))))

I can tell you that when I've slipped up and used bad coping skills or whatever, my T has never been disappointed in me. He might feel sad for me, and sometimes he feels frustrated that things have to be so hard, but not disappointed in ME. We can't be perfect, and T knows that. All we can do is keep working on moving towards healing. Sometimes we stumble and then we get back on the path.

When I use a bad coping skill, or do something I "shouldn't", it is a HUGE indicator of what we really, really need to work on in therapy. The feelings that led up to the behavior, and the things that were going on before it happened give us tons of information. And then we can work on healing and moving forward.

We CAN'T be perfect, mue. T knows that. I wonder if you could let yourself know it a little, too?