Starlite,
I am sooo sorry for the pain you are in right now. You know I have BPD, and I was also attacked by a man sexually when I was in elementary school when my mom failed to pick me up on time. Also my parents are not mentally stable and I was a wild child most likely because of it. Hung out with the wrong crowd, and even dated a guy who called me a year later while we were still dating, from jail, to say he had been convicted of rape. Im telling you all of this because I did manage to sort things out in my own time and I am getting better. You have to believe the good values you have already instilled in your daughter will carry her through this. Be strong, be brave!!!
Ah, Woman, that you should be moving here, among us, grief filled, no more protected than we...Rainer Maria Rilke.