I've wondered about this question for myself. I remember when I did DBT the thing I hated the most was the DBT speak. One couldn't just say one was going for a walk anymore. No, instead one was 'distracting' or 'soothing' or whatever. Keeping the diary where you were supposed to record the skills you practiced meant that the people in the group started thinking of everything they did in DBT skills terms. I... Didn't want to do that. Didn't want to alienate myself from the rest of society by doing that.

I do think that therapy makes me self focused. But then lack of therapy makes me self focused, too, so kind of hard to say. When you are just learning to get in touch with feelings a person can go through a phase of thinking that everyone wants to hear about them as much as ones therapist does or something. I'm not saying that is what is going on with you, but it is something that has happened to me at times and something that I've noticed in others at times.

There are some useful things that I've got out of therapy too, though. Conflict resolution and looking at the other persons intention charitably etc. I'm not good with gossip anymore because I'm identifying with the person more. People do think that is odd and 'therapy-ish' but I really don't mind that one.

I dunno.