(((((((Starlite)))))))),
I am so sorry about the pain you are feeling for your daughter. I understand the horrible feeling of having a T who only sits there listening & doesn't say anything or ask any questions or offer any support or even any feelings that provides a feeling of validation for the feelings she is feeling after pouring her heart out. I had a T who was like that for too many years & was worth NOTHING. Easy to say that she needs to tell the T that she needs feedback & not just someone to listen.....harder to do I am sure.....but if this T can't provide the feedback, then seems to be the wrong kind of T & pray that she will find one that can really help her.
I am so sorry for all you & your daughter have gone through. When you think you are helping them by allowing husband to be the one to raise them & then find out that your daughter would have been so much better off with you......can just feel the pain you are going through right now. I just wish I would be there & give you the hugs that you need right now IRL.
Your daughter was at a point of wanting to heal & get better, the best thing you can do right now is just be there & continue to support her & encourage her & don't let her push you away because she is feeling so bad right now......I know you won't let her go at this point.....she definitely needs your love & support that I know you are filled with for you are such a caring sensitive wonderful Mother. I think as mothers many of us look back at the mistakes we have made.....can't change the past, but we can change the future & that is what we need to focus on.
Just be there & care & give her the best direction you can from your own experiences to share with her.......& who knows, maybe she can move to be with you & leave that bad place where she's at & be able to start over......who knows what the future holds....but all we can do is work toward the good.
Please take care of yourself during this stressful time & know that we all care about you & also care about your daughter.

Debbie