Please help. I am new to this as I have never dated someone with OCD and panic/anxiety disorder. I met this man. At first I thought he was gay as he was a bit feminine but then realized he was just a nerdy artsy shy reserved soft hearted guy. I quickly grew to like him a lot and we have moved kind of fast. He is very tender, we def. have chemistry and physically we are both really attracted to each other. We have fun together, he makes me laugh and I am finding myself becoming very attached. However I did notice he had some quirks early on and was a bit **** about things and a little anxious. He doesn't like to open up too much and talk about things but he did sort of tell me that he has OCD and that he has had panic attacks. I don't know if it's the OCD but he does things that throw me off. Like we'll have a great date and all is well and suddenly he will just suddenly say he has to leave. He said he's not a germaphobe but he will use hand sanitizer or wash his hands right after we fool around and he will not have oral sex at all and I have a feeling it's because he is obsessing about that area of the body. He has trouble maintaining an erection. All will be great and then his body will just shut down and he'll shut down too and go to sleep. I don't know what to do because sometimes his inattentiveness to my needs throws me off as if he is not interested and don't know if this is normal for OCD or if it's something else. His big issues is checking his locks all the time and he can't listen to music (wears ear plugs) unless it's music he likes. It's hard to overlook some of these quirks but he's so sweet that I am having trouble not falling for him hard but I worry about how it will get down the road and how our sex life will get better or worse. When we do have sex he always runs quickly to the bathroom to clean up and he wants to wear condoms because I think he's got issues with that "area". I mean if he puts on a condom and it goes on backwards he's convinced that I will get pregnant and insists on new condom. I think he thinks just touching me will get me pregnant. Any little thing will set him off and he'll lose his erection immediately. I don't know how to deal with this. he refuses to take medication and seems to have a "this is me take it or leave it" attitude or doesn't think his obsessions are abnormal. I'm afraid how our intimacy will be affected by this because even though it's great when we "make out" when it comes to the actual deed he gets very weird about it. will he ever be comfortable with me being on the pill. he says he likes skin on skin but i notice won't let his penis touch even my backside without a condom and when i brought up going on the pill he wasn't very excited by that idea whereas most guys don't want to wear condoms. The oral sex thing he says he had a bad experience so doesn't sound like he'll ever want to have oral sex. I gave him oral sex and i know he loved it but hasn't wanted it since. I'm very confused and feeling frustrated and a bit neglected both emotionally and physically because like i said everything will be great and then he'll just leave all of a sudden like he has to get home or has things to do (ie waking up and running home so he could do laundry at 7am instead of sleeping in with me when he has all day to do laundry) or never calling me. he'll go days without calling me and it makes me feel like he doesn't like me but then he'll call me like it's no big deal. so i'm getting lots of mixed messages but it's not the type of behavior you get from someone who just wants sex and doesn't actually like you. he seems to genuinely like me but these little behaviors that i don't understand throw me off.