Deli, I just read this thread--ouch, what a rotten text msg from austin-T.
I think text messaging might be even more prone to miscommunication than emails. I don't agree with what austin-T said, based on how you are on this board. You seem very easy to connect with, and are good at sharing what is going on with you but also good at responding to others in need.
I hope you'll go see him and talk face to face about his connection comment. I think he should be reminded that he has previously said how alike you were and how he could talk easily with you for hours. I think he is being very inconsistent and it would be good to show him that by reminding him of his words. Then perhaps he'll realize what a buffoon he was to you last time. I do not think that you imagined a connection with austin-T that does not exist. I think he was probably a bit frustrated when you drew back from all his questions. And then started crying. He probably has no idea he caused the problem by using the 20 questions technique. He's probably thinking, what is the matter, why is she crying, why won't she tell me? But you did tell him to stop interrogating you and he kept right on.
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i got there and he started his question routine and i just clammed up. are you eating, how many hours are you sleeping, are you getting out of the apartment, how have you been feeling, can you tell me more feelings etc. and i just sat there feeling worse and worse until the things i wanted to talk about didnt seem important anymore.
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The badgering would have the same effect on me, deli. I wish you could establish a different routine with him so he doesn't do that 20 questions thing. Do you think he realizes how offputting it can be?
Deli, I hope you don't give up on austin-T and think his inconsistent behavior means you are somehow at fault. I think he really messed up. I hope pdoc will have some insight and can provide encouragement.
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anyway, i'm giving up. if that's how people see me then so be it. i dont have the energy to keep trying anymore. i see pdoc on wednesday and will talk it over with him but he's a good person to me so he'll make it ok.
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I wish you could hold fast to your own view of your self and not let austin-T be the supreme arbiter of who deli is. You know who you are. Austin-T doesn't get to determine that or pronounce judgment. Plus, austin-T speaks only for himself, not for other "people". Don't let who you know yourself to be be swayed by one therapist's stupid comment. If tomorrow, pdoc says something different than austin-T, who will you believe? I hope you can believe what your self knows to be true.
