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Originally Posted by sunrise
I was thinking the other day that sometimes therapy can change one so that other people find you, well, obnoxious...
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Therapy is bound to make more of you available.
People who were going to find you obnoxious anyway may find more to react to than they would with someone who was keeping a lower profile. Chances are, that's going to be more of a problem for
them than it'll ever be for you or for your other friends. If their previous "good" opinion of you was based on their being able to suppress, exploit or manipulate you and now you'll no longer stand for that, you might actually be better off without them. In time, their disappointment might even drive
them to seek therapy.
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Here is an example: I have become much better at being able to detect what I am feeling over the last 3+ years, due to therapy. Sometimes I just have to pause for a moment and "listen" to what is going on inside of myself, and sometimes I can hear the feeling that is arising....
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That sounds like exactly what's supposed to happen. Your therapy must be working.
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Well, I said this to someone--about resonating--and they made fun of me for that statement. I think it somewhat annoyed them, in fact. Is "that doesn't resonate with me" too therapy-speakish? Does it seem, well, like a stupid and annoying statement to some people?
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It may. Then again, if they're the ones who have a problem with it (and are using that as an excuse to act obnoxious themselves), a little therapy speak might be just the thing to keep them at a safe distance.
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Originally Posted by sunrise
That may explain why this particular person seemed annoyed and mocked me--she is from a different part of the country, and I would guess that phrase isn't used there much, and if it is, it might be cause for derision. So to be charitable, her reaction may be because of where she is from.
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To be charitable, it sounds like she wasn't feeling very charitable for whatever reason?
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Originally Posted by sunrise
I actually think I have the opposite problem from wanting to annoy people--I worry I will annoy people or cause conflict and so I try to be appeasing, similar to what some others have described here. But over the last few years, through therapy, I have gotten a lot better at that.
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Wait, you've gotten better at appeasing -- or at noticing yourself wanting to, and choosing when to appease and when not to? Or was that an obnoxious question?
