I hear your frustration, and no we can't just let go of it. It can takes years of work in therapy to "get over it" and break old patterns. I get enraged when someone says this to me. My AA sponsor did this to me this weekend. I was talking about feeling triggered to drink becasue of PTSD. And she said "Isn't that just a fancy way of saying you haven't gotten over things, everyone has bad memories they have to deal with." I felt so invalidated.

Sorry for threadjacking.