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CaptainKidd -
Well it turns out she has a boyfriend... however the relationship seems to be on the rocks. Apparently he is mad at her because she wants to hold hands in public, and cuddle when in private watching a movie. He also sees nothing wrong with spending their time together playing WOW and using facebook while she sits on the couch. She let me read his email to her, and I was kind of like... what do you see in this guy. He thinks that is being pushy.. Funny thing is that is what I am missing in my life. I also should mention that they only see each other on the weekends because his he is "too busy". She lives 10 minutes out of town, and that is too far for him to go. But he also gets upset if she calls him during the week to talk. I work a full time job, have to continue my education on my own time, and I could make the time.
He is 30, unemployed and living in his mothers basement. His mom is paying for him to go back to school (4th time). His area of study is my field of work. Apparently he has trouble with the lab work involved... well I hate to say it, but in my field it is not about the book knowledge but application. If you can't do the labs you’re looking at the wrong line of work.
Admittedly I am 31 and live in my parent’s lower level.... but my situation is that I moved back in to help them, and am currently the one who makes the house payment.
Our relationship is that of just friends... but for me this is a big step as it *is* a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. The thing I find funny is that she spent last weekend with me, as he wanted space. She loves hockey, and I have season tickets so after we had spent the day together I took her to the game Saturday. Then she went with me to the game on Sunday where I had tickets in the ice box. We had a blast and after Sundays game we tried ice skating. I split my pants the third time I went to the ground, and we both had a good laugh. She commented that she wanted to do that again.
I am keeping the door open, and we have been spending time together which helps build my confidence... also I have noticed that when I am with her I seem to get more attention from other girls.
She knows that I like her in a more than friends way, but I am happy having her as a friend. She puts a smile on my face, and is the polar opposite of me. For nothing else it is a change, and feels good at the moment. She has also admitted that she is attracted to me, but she still *loves* her boyfriend. I just wonder what he thinks about me spending time and making her smile... hehehe
It is ironic that my feelings about myself and my anxieties really are all that stand in the way for me. Looking at this guy I'm thinking what a looser. I am a better catch in so many ways... not perfect, but hell.
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