First question I have, have you met her in real life or this a net person?

You haven't cheated on your wife, not physically right? When I was married, I ended up developing feelings for a guy and it went on for a little bit. Then one night, with the help of intoxication, I made out with this guy. We didn't sleep together. But that made me realize just how unhappy I was with my husband. I am not a cheater. But I almost slept with this other guy, and just the fact that it went as far as it went, made me realize I had better take a look at the marraige if I had been so tempted to get so close to this other guy. I felt horrible about just making out and staying the night. In the end I left my husband. I lost interest in the other guy because he did what he did with a married woman.

So, from my experience, I would suggest looking at your marraige. If you're considering cheating, why? What are your motives in the idea of an affair? Is the relationship with your wife fixable? Do you love her? Is she worth working through these issues for? If you don't love her, and think you ought to leave, being honest with her is the best thing you can do. However, don't leave her for this other woman. Because really, do you want to be with someone who would sleep with a married man? I would be worried about her morals, and what she might do to you later. If you feel like you want to leave your wife, make sure your motives and best intentions lay with being honest with yourself and your wife, not hooking up with someone else. There is a period of time needed after a relationship ends to seek a new one. Did you ever like being the rebound boyfriend? Would you respect this new woman if she turns out to be the one to end a marraige and the one who wants to be a rebound girlfriend? This is all just from my own experience. When I'm faced with such a big issue, I find getting it on paper helps. I just start writing and let my feelings pour out on paper. Above all though, my advice is to give this all some really serious thoughts. Good luck!

~Rayna