One saving grace of all of this is that I'm not living with them. I'm an adult and so is my only sibbling my brother. Its a role reversal situation, where I'm in the caregiver mode, when I'm not all that well myself. I have very recently got some help into the house, cause its too much on me. I have to admit both parents were very hesitant about it. The holiday idea, break idea is something I need to still do. I appreciate everyone's help. Its been a difficult haul, I hope with thinkiing it out here, and with your inputs, I can make my situation better.