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imapatient · 02:41 AM

Deli, your post about what went on in your family is a very brave, important step for you to have taken. While I can relate to some of the comments about being told that one is unlovable--almost verbatim--the rest of it is very difficult to comment on because of how horrifically you were treated that it is beyond the pale.

I posted hugs initially because I find it impossible to say anything right now: I don't want to make you angry or unhappy or distressed. I also have no idea of how to offer nurturing words right now for such a horrible set of experiences you've gone through. I'm speechless. I feel velcro's anger, too, but I'm holding it in. No one should be treated--in multiple different ways--like that.

I feel for you as if you are the gifted, promising, innocent, brilliant, and 'delicate' much younger sister I never had, whom I want to mentor and protect from the bad in the world, but I can't, and I certainly can't do anything about the past. And that hurts right now as I understand your pain more.

I think others might be uncertain of what to say, and, not wanting to say the wrong thing, aren't commenting much yet.

Thanks for sharing like this. Knowing this makes me even more impressed and proud of you and your accomplishments. You've progressed so much since you first came to PC, and I think your willingness to share more details with us is evidence of progress. And counter to the theme that started this, this is a way of you connecting in a very positive way. Don't let few comments so far bother you (I know you pay attention to views and comments). This is such sensitive material that I don't think anyone wants to handle it too lightly or carelessly with immediate, not very-well-formed responses. (It's 3:30 in the morning in New York City for reference, so probably most here are and have been sleeping (and will be for quite a while.)

You are a great human being.