Thank you all and big big hugs to you !!!!
I am tyring to say I but still feel We :-) LOL.
But at least now I know that We is I and that is just fine.
Andy is not yet blended - he is our final one who is most resistant.
But he does have so much of the pain and anger. So we are all inside just trying to help him out by being there for him and letting him be heard.
He has stuff that we never would have thought could have happened.
But that is ok. It will all be fine.
And the wonderful part is feeling the awesome feeling we all have inside when we can just relax and no one is expected to be out there all alone sometimes!!!