(((((( Jexa ))))))))) Just now seeing this! Wow. Hon - it is NOT your fault how the family responds to this !!!! It is HIS frickin fault!!!! HE is the one who wanted to get his privates all up in your stuff when he knew d@mn well that was WRONG !!!!
OMG !!!!! Bless your soul!!!

It reminds me of how my mom protects my dad because my brother will not allow them to watch the granddaughters. They make up excuses and all that BS about this and that and that we made too much of it. OMG! A pedophile is a pedophile - period. Your grandpa did wrong. And you have EVERY RIGHT to tell it from the roof if you had the incling to do so !!!! The choice the rest of the family makes about how they deny it or process it is up to them. That is NOT your fault or job to clean up HIS mess !!!

Tell them flat out that the facts are the facts and they are free to feel whatever they want about it - but be sure you let them know that you REFUSE to accept any GUILT about the situation. HE WAS AT FAULT !!!!!!!

I am so furious right now that they are so blind and hurting you like this. I wish people would wake up and stop protecting this molestors. They are just as at fault by turning a blind eye or making an excuse as the abuser is for doing it.

Big hugs to you!!!!