Kacey - I'm in a similar situation except my husband lives with me and the kids and visits her 1 day a week. He married her (in the religious sense) yet he's still married to me. The only difference is I want him to go with her and I don't love him in a romantic way. We are civil and don't want the kids to suffer. I agree I have felt the emotion of thinking it would be easier if he were dead - I feel like a horrible person saying this. I feel imprisoned by this situation and if I won the lottery, I would move to another house immediately. This happened 3 and a half yrs ago and I gave him a year to decide and he still won't go - God. I feel like I'm living in limbo. The moment I found out, is the moment I no longer wanted him. I've reached a point where I can be friendly but even if he were to break up with her -I wouldn't want him. I hope everything works out for you and your family.