Deli- Maybe there is more to the story and I havent been reading here much the last 2 weeks or so, but it sounds to me like PROGRESS with you and austin-t. It sounds like he going a bit deeper with you into your relationship with him. I dont think you are a failure AT ALL. It looks to me like progress that austin-t feels like you are ready to take steps into area of intimacy with him (or likely anyone else) and the issues that come up around that.