Have your watched leonado in the movie whats eating gilbert grape? Only never talked or made anysounds or laughted about anything.
Have you watched the movie adam about a man living with aspergers syndrome and he startes a relationship only to have it taken away.
Through almost 20 years of marriage my wife had to endure a life of living with me who lacked the ability to feel her needs very much like adam in the movie adam.
She learned of my disability a couple years into our marriage which helped her to know what kind of a person i was and what i couldn't do, only she wasn't aware of the severity.
I recall about 15 years into our marriage i would hear her crying and i would lay there without any feelings telling me to hold her and comfort her. (like adam not knowing what affection was)
ten years, later, i recalled it, and ask her why she cried. She said, i didn't know if you were ever going to change or get better it was getting harder to accept you being this way.
When she pointed out how i lack emotions and feeling to relate to her, the kids, and life i started to work on this and for years all i could do was watch and react by thinking about how i should responde to what just toop place. The problem with this is it's not a true feeling and it comes to late for the other person to feel it.
Though i struggle with things today, we are enjoying life with my new found feelings. I can now get a feeling without thought and express it by showing it with a hug, or saying something nice.
My new feelings let me know i am alive. I am looking forward to the next 30 years with her. She had to go somewhere and only thirty minutes later, i am missing her.
I could look back on my marriage and become depressed looking at the things i couldn't do or get, but, i would raither look into the future and say "look at the things i can do and feel great."
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