we cant answer these questions. the answers are in him. he told you the answer to one of them he dissociates so he doesn't feel anything anything for anyone or anything. Dissociation doest work like gravitating towards or from someone. its a reaction to stress, trauma and not being able to face your problems, so you space off, numb yourself so you don't feel that stress, trauma and your problems.

there is such a thing as love at first sight, this is when you meet someone and you have an immediate lustful romantic attachment to a person. sometimes it lasts a life time other times after getting to know the love interest you find out that it wasn't what you wanted, sometimes people get hurt sometimes the break up is friendly.

Sounds like you are trying to make the break up as friendly as possible. I know your hurting right now but maybe he's the kind of person that has alot of love at first sight romances and he's trying to be honest with you about his feelings that he loved you for a while but now that romantic love in him is gone. you said he's already in another relationship and its only been a few weeks. that to me says here we go again another love at first sight situation.

try to consider yourself the lucky one. he could have been the type of jerk that keeps his mouth shut and has you and a lot of love at first sight mistresses on the side. he values you and your friendship and respects you to, to the point where he wanted to be honest with you.

What can you do now. give him the space he needs and wants and go on with your life. who knows someday when he outgrows his love at first sight flings he may look back and realize what he had with you was what he has been looking for and come back to you. if not well then it just wasn't meant to be.

when he starts dealing with his feelings will they still be there - that depends on the type of dissociation disorder he has and how deeply he burys those emotions within himself. it could be years before he allows himself to deal with his emotions and it could be that he never will because he buried them so deep. each person with a dissociation disorder deals with their emotions and problems differently so theres no way to tell you a definitive answer to this.

theres someone out there for all of us. sometimes it takes a while to find that mr.(S) right. but they are out there.