This site has several quotes from Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its After Effects in Women by E. Sue Blume. I actually rented this book on my own time and though I was triggered by it and so couldn't get through the whole thing, there were several descriptions by her that I loved. Definitely a worthwhile read, if you can handle it. Makes a lot of great points that I (and my best friend/story twin) could really identify with.