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Originally Posted by RACEKA
I've just been trying to figure out why my T said to me last session he was glad at the time he was detached from me. He told me he couldn't tell that to anyone else. I know he didn't mean it to hurt me. It didn't sink in at the time until I started processing the session. I won't see him until April 10 so I'm just stewing on it.
I asked my Pdoc about it and he said it was good. He has to be emotionally detached from me to not get pulled into my problems. He has to be emotionally detached in order to help me. He said but he has to be theraputically attached in order for the counseling to work. Theraputic attachment he can still care about me without being emotionally attached.
I'm just trying to get a handle on this until I see T and ask for more explanation.
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question what would you think and feel if you were talking about something really hard for you and your therapist suddenly acted as if your problem was theirs and started falling apart in front of you crying, shaking, swearing, possibly throwing a fit whatever she thought she needed to do at that moment to express her emotions of experiencing your problem as if it was her own? Imagine going to a therapist who mimicked your problems, your emotions, your posture.
I dont know about you but it would scare the crap out of me if I was sitting there crying, shaking telling my therapist details about my rape and how it felt to go through rape and I see her shaking, crying, and saying how much she wants to go out and kill the creep that raped her, when I am the one that was raped not her, Im the one that needs the shoulder to cry on, Im the one that needs to know how to get through this problem but the therapist is no help because shes falling apart taking on my problem as her own.
Call me selfish but I want a therapist who is going to support and help me not my helping and supporting a therapist who is reacting to my problems.
in order to do their job therapist have to remain neutral (detached) from the client to a degree so that they don't end up getting burned out or reacting as if their clients problems are their own. they have to stay clear headed so that they can support their clients and help them over the hard spots.
