sugahorse, it sounds like your idea of what therapy would be like is about how mine is. And I have found therapy like that. And it has worked very well for me. Having a listening ear is not what I need. I can write about my problems all I want, I can talk about my problems over and over, and it does nothing. I need perspective, and I need someone who is sharp and able to see things in me that I don't see. My T is all of those things.

It's not about whether you see a psychologist or a mental health counselor or other type of mental health professional. It's about what you are looking for in therapy, whether that therapist does it (and does it well), and how well you can listen to and trust that therapist. It sounds like you want to take action, you want to solve problems, you're not in therapy because you really need to talk or have a strong desire to explore your psyche with a mental health professional. You want solutions, you want a plan that will work for you. It sounds like what you want is something like CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy. Other kinds of therapy that take this approach are REBT (rational emotive behavior therapy), ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), and DBT (dialectical behavior therapy, though DBT is normally used for borderline personality disorder). Other therapists loosely call their techniques "solution-focused." So, before you go to see a therapist, you want to see if they do something like this. You might ask, "Do you take a solution-focused approach?" Or "Do you do CBT?" Maybe this will give you a better experience that better suits your needs.

My therapist does ACT and it works very well for me. I have tried therapists with the approach you are describing and it didn't work at all for me. Hope this helps.