Wendy,
Thanks for sharing. I actually had a big breakthrough with my dad. Long story, I wont bore you with the past. But the anger and hurt was eating me alive and I knew something had to change. We cant change others so I had to change myself. I read several books on healing the heart and letting go of past hurts so I was prepaired for the encounter with him. I didnt know how to initiate it without the fear that he would slam the door in my face, he lives next door. Well then it just happened. I live on the water and there was a dog drowning and too big for me to lift over the wall. I had to call my dad for help. Weve done animal rescues like this before and he would not even let his pride get in the way of saving a life. We found it very natural talking and working together as we rescued the dog to safety. We didnt rehash the past and today I had lunch with him for the first time in a year. I think that if I had not prepaired my heart ahead of time this would not have turned out so well. Heal yourself cutie and the opportunities will present themselves at the appropriate time.