how about not worrying about making her orgasm. that could be causing her to stress out thinking you expect her to. women naturally don't have an orgasm every time they have sex. and especially if we know our partners are expecting it. our body's work differently than a man's does. a man can pick up a playboy and see a nude body of their liking and their flag is waving at full staff. a man can be touched and their flag automatically begins to rise. touch and sexual stimulation doesn't cause a lot of women to orgasm or even get us in the mood. for some women like me a sexual attraction is in the romance, the gentle little things like bringing us a bouquet of our favorite flowers for no reason, its the hand holding through a movie, its the back rub with our favorite body lotion with out the expectation of intercourse, its even things like my coming home and finding out my partner has done the dishes and ordered Chinese dinner and the two of us eating with candle light and relaxing background music.

try to remember what it was like for you and your girlfriend before intercourse entered into the picture. what are her favorite things, what kinds of things does she find romantic. What kinds of things attracted the two of you to each other. go back to those days when sex was a bonus not expectation. show her shes not just there for you to have sex with, show her how different you are from the person who forced himself on her and expected her to orgasm for him. Romance and the little things go a long way to showing someone who has been raped that you care for them and you are not going to expect her to cum when ever you want her to. show her you love her so much you are willing to take things at her speed and not expect anything more than what she's able to share with you. When her body is ready to got hat extra mile for her and then for you you will know it. and it will be even more special for the two of you because it wasn't a forced orgasm that is expected but one that happened out of love.