I have 12 and 10 year old boys. At this point, I think the only thing we can do. Is praise them for not taking part in the activity. Encourage them to talk to us and keep communication open, but not judgemental. I've learned to listen and just give my opinion, although, I do express to them constantly, you have to live with the choice that you make. I keep them educated and up to date on the negative effects drugs and alcohol has in a person's life. Both physically and mentally, and I pray that they make the correct choices in life, and hope that they learn from either their own or the mistakes of others. I do believe that communication is the most important key. Knowing that they can talk to you and trust you is so important, otherwise you'll never know what is truly taking place in his life. I'm proud of him for making the right decision and being so smart and mature about it. You did a great job as a mom.