Wow, that's a great question. I wonder too, because I have revenge fantasies. And then, I'm a Christian, so am I guilty of committing the sin in my head, even if I don't do it outright? That complicates things for me.

Plus, I have such trouble with forgiveness. How can I say "that's OK" to some very not-OK things? I know, that's not what forgiveness is, but I can't seem to wrap my head around that fact. Then I also worry that having the thoughts in my head will one day *cause* me to act on it.

Sorry I can't be more helpful, but I do want you to know I understand.