Congratulations, imapatient, on your sobriety. No matter what any one else says to you the fact remains you quit drinking. Those who feel compelled to elevate form over substance have a problem. My suggestion for you is to not make their problem your problem. Recognize they are dealing with their own insecurities. Smile. Nod your head. And go on doing what has allowed you to remain sober for 21 years.

I tip my hat to you.