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Originally Posted by DfendrOfEmilysHeart
Thanks everyone. I'm not sure if I will be telling my dad n brothers.
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You have every right to change your mind, a thousand and more times.
Me? I haven't told any of my family about what the stepdad did to me. Never will, at least I've said that - well, until he's dead, I'm not going to say anything. I've made some peace with that decision, it's for my own sanity. But your situation sounds different, since it's a person outside your immediate family?
You can do what you want, but talk to your T about it first because it's easier to figure out what to say before just blurting things out (which I've done far too many times to count, always with bad results.)
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Yes but my mum, who does know, has made it seem like I should keep it quiet because this guy was younger than me and was just learning about himself. Besides, I didn't say no when I should have done. And then when I did say no to him, I was too weak to resist when he insisted and settled for a quiet life, rather than not doing what I knew was wrong.
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Your mum is not in control of your decisions, you are.
Just because a guy is younger doesn't mean he's less responsible. You didn't say no because you were scared or uncomfortable or anything like that - not your fault. If you did say no to him eventually and he STILL insisted, that is HIS FAULT. Not yours.