It also doesn't help that we're both thrill seekers and the best sex we've had has been in somewhat dangerous and often public places. So what about the other end of the sexual behavior spectrum?

I did behave like that early in my reciprocal sexual relationships. It was a little thrilling, but I had to get drunk in order to let my personal boundaries down. It was not a positive experience for me ~ it brings shame.

I've heard of women that have been sexually traumatized and can only orgasm in certain situations. Like bondage, alt sex kind of stuff.

I also tried bondage ~ but I had to be the one in charge.

Especially enjoyed my mans' eyes wrapped with a dark fabric. Using different syrups (chocolate, whipped cream, peanut butter) to entice was also exciting.

It's awfully easy to dissociate in events like these. A different persona takes over. That is survivor mode. As previously mentioned, this is my personal experience.

I don't know whether or not my words apply to your gf, but I would seriously recommend discussing how she feels about her sexuality ~ emotionally. Does she look down upon her sexual behavior, feel guilty, or evil? Before you and and your gf became sexually involved, did she have other mutual sexual relationships? If so, did they follow the same sexual pattern? Or the same emotional pattern?