My boyfriend is going through a hard time right now. He told me that for the first time he has someone by his side to help get through things. We've been together for a year now. What I find frustrating is that he doesn't understand how it affects me when he shuts down when he's feeling overwhelmed and angry. Its a problem he's been dealing with for the last 3 years but for the first time we now have a sure plan to achieve the goal he wants to change his life. We're getting very close to having all the money to hire an attorney, we have support from his family and soon his life will change. I see that his life is a cup that is "half full" but he continues to see his life as a cup that is "half empty." I asked him why must he continue to see his life in such a negative way. I'm by his side helping him get through it but its not enough. He doesnt understand how it affects me when he continues to shut down. I've told him that when he shuts down he only pushes me away and I become frustrated because I feel I"m not doing enough for him. I told him that I don't mind helping him with things but still I need him to show me that I'm not going to take on all the heavy burden of things but when he shuts down I feel the pressure to take over. When I get frustrated I soon begin to get mad and start to yell. I'm not proud of myself when I do. Everyone deserves to get upset and overwhelmed but with him its a everyday thing as though he enjoys being the victim. Even when we get good news he won't accept it and still stay upset, depress, hopless, angry etc...
People please help? I'm lost with so many emotions and not sure how to handle this.
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