Hi dear,

I can relate to much of what you wrote. I used to feel, think and assume like you do now. But not any more.

I think your last sentence is very meaningful. You say you are lost with so many emotions. Maybe start by identifying each thought that leads to each emotion that leads to what kind of behaviour. That helped me.

Your guy is seeing the empty glass, does not accept happiness, drags you down with it, and waits for you to rescue him only to be able to discount that rescue and say 'told you so'. This is hard to accept but easier to name the game by its name rather then be lost in the muddle of codependency.

You cannot rescue him. You cannot save him from himself. Its painful for you and its confusing. Why should his anger be affecting you so badly?