On a bad anniversary, is there any way to do something good? Maybe start a positive tradition that will balance out the bad memories? For example, on my youngest daughter's birthday (she died as a baby) we always have a little celebration. We still put up a stocking for her at Christmas. That kind of thing. The anniversary of the day she died, I do the same thing. Go out and eat in a nice restaurant, go to a movie (usually a funny one) or whatever.