((Yoda)) - first let me say how sorry I am, this happened to you. I find it very maddening the way your mother responded when you told. I can't imagine not supporting my child like that I think you're right in not wanting to be around him.

My BIL tried to assault me when I was 13 and I remember hating him and gritting my teeth when ever I had to be around him. Both my older brothers were assaulted by my mothers brother when they were young. I have a feeling my 1 brother told my mother when I was 6 because, all of a sudden he just left town and was never heard from again. I think my mother basically ran him out of town.

It makes me so sad, that this is, an all too common occurence. It's the main reason, I won't dare trust my girls around anyone. I've taught them it's fine to be rude even to family and friends if they feel threatened in that way. Do what ever you need to do, to make yourself feel safe Yoda. You don't even have to go at all if you don't want to.