((((((((((yoda))))))))))))
I havent posted in this forum much. nice to meet you.

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

I would not go there if he is there ! !!! i agree with you, and you should not be around that man, no way. If mom can't accept it and allows him to come around like that, then she can spend time with him. Not fair.
You deserve to feel safe there. They might not like it right away, but they will deal with it with time. it's better to have boundaries and stand up for yourself and let them decide how they are going to react.
If he is going to get to do what he wants now, so do you.