Jennifer I feel the same way all the time.

My T says that when someone is depressed, this is how they act. The whole, him not responding and you getting frustrated/angry....that is the cycle that bothers me the most in my life. B/c its like, very frustrating to be ignored/invalidated. Then WE end up looking like the "bad guy" because somehow, it's worse to yell than to ignore someone.
It's maddening. I agree with everything tatyana said. You can't fix him...my T says that when you try to help someone and it's like pulling teeth every time and it drains you, eventually resentment will build up. And it's just the difference between wanting to spend your life trying to help someone be happy...or just being happy yourself, and letting them do whatever it is that they are going to do.
Ugh, so much easier said than done. ((((((jennifer))))))