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When I am with my close friends, father and aunt - all who have no problem with it, and even partake in it themselves - I will swear excessively. Even as I am talking, I realize that I am going overboard and should slow down; however, it is a hard habit to cut back on. Not to mention, as much as some may disagree with me, it does feel good (or at least for my friends and I) to throw out a pile of swear words. They just roll off the tongue, and it almost feels as if they have activated dopamine. Also remember, I am currently in junior high. As much as almost all adults, and even some kids, wish it weren't true, swearing is just such a part of our environment. It's heard in whispering in the classroom, shouting on the bus, and fights between students. Truly, it is impossible to escape.
That being said, I would never swear outside my friends, peers, and family that have shown they are alright hearing it. Doing otherwise, in my opinion, is absolutely disrespectful. There are multiple people in my life, of all ages, who get offended, disgusted, or upset whenever they come in contact with profanity. They have made this known, and I would never want to cause them discomfort for the sake of me saying or posting words (I use no profanity on Facebook/Myspace/Youtube, etc) that honestly are not needed. Everybody has their own comfort levels with certain things, including - and, at times, especially - swear words. People who cannot or choose not to respect others' wishes on this matter irk me a great deal. If someone is upset by something, I feel it should be their right not to be confronted or bombarded with it.
LovebirdsFlying, you are certainly not the only one who has trouble tolerating excessive profanity. It is absolutely normal, and there is nothing wrong with it. Just as some people are upset or disgusted by heights, carnival rides, certain foods, specific authors, and so much more, you have every right to dislike the use of swear words. In my very honest opinion, it does not make you uncool or a 'fuddy-duddy'. It makes you a person, with loves, dislikes, pet peeves, and comfort zones. I wish I could make it so every person respected that, as they should; however, there are many immature and ignorant individuals who can't see the impact their actions are having on you. My best advice is to try to impress on people your discomfort with excessive swearing. On Facebook, maybe you could send a message to the page's creator requesting he moderate it a bit closer. Other than that, you know you can always come here for support if you feel triggered.
Wishing you the best,
Eri/Erika
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Last edited by Starlightembers; Apr 04, 2010 at 12:10 PM.
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