Thanks everyone for your wonderful words. Sorry I didn't respond sooner. I think you are all right. I am being a little suspicious about the whole thing because I am so used to the co-dependent nature of our relationship. I do believe there is co-dependence involved but I can use what I learned to disentangle myself from her in the first place to keep from being drawn back into that cycle. It is a tight rope walk but I have learned to walk that rope well besides there is a net underneath made up of you all, my T and my husband. I can do this if I just try to be positive and open.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson