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Originally Posted by Chronic
((((velcro))))
This is getting scary for me- I feel like you are writing from my mind!
That email is just the kind that I send to T, but can never discuss with him in person. I know its scary, but I really dont think T will be angry or upset with you for feeling like you are failing at therapy. I think it is something important that T would welcome- it helps her to understand and help you. Ts are trained not to take everything we say to them personally, even if it is directly about them. My guess is that she will be upset FOR you that you feel like this and how you find it so difficult to talk to her.
Have you told T that you are scared that she will be upset or angry with you? This has been a discussion me and T have had continuously for nearly the whole time I have been with him. And because he knows how I feel about that, he knows to go slowly with me, not to push and just to sit and be patient. My feeling is that your T would probably react the same way- sometimes we need to give T a little to work with, for them to really prove themselves.
Let us know how things go  |
I'm so glad I'm not alone!! I have talked with her about me being afraid of her being mad or upset. We both know that it really isn't about her, and I think she is of the philosophy to not necessarily respond to my fears. She doesn't say "No matter what you say I won't get mad", but she also never has ever changed the way she responds to me...always neutral, always interested. She is much like your T, where she is so so so patient and goes so slowly. Just last week we laughed because the beginning of every session is ALWAYS awkward for me. I HATE IT. I never know how to begin, so I just stare at her...look back...stare....laugh nervously and go "Soo...." EVERY WEEK.
This week I laughed at my nervousness and she goes "I wonder if there will ever be a day when you will just sit down and talk."
Yeah right, T!
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Originally Posted by ECHOES
A leap of faith is a concious decision that you commit to.
It may take practice and you may feel like you can, but then you can't in the end. And that is OK, because you are practicing. It will come.
velcro, I know we always say this  but this is a really good therapy topic and may help you to find in you that leap of faith. |
It IS a good therapy topic....if only I got up enough guts to talk about it with her.