T has kind of confronted my abuser in front of me. He will talk at a picture I drew, or he will say "if he were here I would tell him..." and he is VERY clear and firm and talks to him in the second person. He is angry at him and says angry things to him, but it's not scary to me, because I feel safe and protected. I think he is trying to show me how I can think of him/talk to him. It feels really healing to my younger parts...because FINALLY here is a grown up telling this guy to GO AWAY.

Sometimes he will tell me what to tell him ("Go away, stop that, etc."). And it's super hard, but I try to do it. Just a few sessions ago, I started saying things to him on my own ("what's wrong with you, why can't you find someone your own age).

So, we do it in bits and pieces when it comes up in session. We've never planned it and we've never tried the "empty chair".

I will say this though...when I think of something that I want to try (like you just did) T ALWAYS tries it with me. Always. He trusts that I know what I need to heal. And so do you, my friend.