mmm i hope this thread doesn't get closed down, even if it is looking at the ugly side of therapy. i've been wanting to vent a bit about my old therapist lately. this seems to be the right place to do it .

this is from old-t, who i saw for 2 years:
- he asked me once if i was having sexual thoughts about him, and wouldn't take 'no' for an answer (he kept on this topic for one whole 60min session, which cost me $130 out of pocket). i know for a fact he wouldn't have taken it further or anything, i think he was just on a bit of an ego trip and had misinterpreted something i'd written him a week back. but he didn't like being 'wrong' so he wouldn't let the topic drop.
- he told me he didn't believe me when i shared some of my past abuse. he 'wondered why i felt the need to make those things up'.
- he told me i had no reason to be depressed, because women had a lot more freedom these days and i should be grateful for it.
- following on from the above point, he told me i would be a lot happier if i quit uni and found a mindless job as a checkout chick, because then i could become a mother and look after my children and husband. he said evolutionarily women were meant to stay at home and a lot of my problems wouldnt even be occuring if i'd just done what i was built for.
- he told me that women get emotional during sex but that if i wanted a boyfriend i had to control myself because men wanted uncomplicated sex and they would just look elsewhere if i was problematic. ouch (and we never talked about sex stuff, because i wasn't even interested in a relationship, so i'm confused about why this one came up).

i feel pretty stupid that i stayed with him for so long. but i really did think he was a good therapist (he's possibly the most intelligent guy i've ever met) and so i thought everything he said was right and that i was the big black problem that needed fixing.