The most important and helpful things for clients are being heard and listened. Obviously no one can really Fix my emotional problems and I understand that counseling isn't about fixing stuff. For me counseling was about talking and being heared.

These are few more things that triggered me in the past

This couples counselor told me this before.
- I am in the danger state where I can really kill myself. Where I am not in bed. I am becoming strong and functioning properly.and I believed her and my suicidal thoughts became really strong.

- I was doing couples counseling and this lady told me that I will be able to decided whether I am going to stay with my partner or get divorced just after 3 sessions. I became so scared and overwhelmed, feeling like I have to decide something big in 3 sessions, we dropped out from couples counseling because I didn't want counsellings to decide about my relationship.

- I was going through intake interview and this counselor told me that her sister who has depression had to marry 3 times. So I told myself that
the relationship problem with my partner is something that I have to work on. I have to fix my depression, otherwise I will get divorced no matter who I am with and I felt quite hopeless.


I am sure those counselors didn't mean to hurt me or didn't even imagine what I was going to feel or react. I am not trying to tell everyone that all the therapists are bad or they can't give clients any comments. Because we are so venerable and asking and needing help from professionals, all these little thing that they tell us affect on the clients tremendously in a good or bad ways. I just wanted to share the comments that didn't help me at all.


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